I didn't really mean the plots that are actually about rape. Although Allies total obliviousness towards the lack of agency in the space rape scene was staggering.

I meant the romantizition of unrequitted love. Lovesick guy lusting after often younger and inexperienced woman. In fiction he is often quite disempowered by his love (see Spike). Old predatory men often playact this disempowerment to flatter the younger woman or to guilt her into sex (as Allie apparently did with the woman he harrased), but in reality they are just acting on their whims and disregarding the other person and their agency completely.